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Episode 36: How to introduce a new partner to the kids

June 27, 2024 • Stowe talks • Season 5 • Episode 36

Introducing a new partner to your kids can be complicated, and requires careful thought and planning to get it right.

So we asked parenting and relationship coach Nichole Farrow to join us to share her advice on how to introduce a new partner, including:

Fostering good communication with the other parent
The importance of a gradual introduction - baby steps all the way
Ensuring thoughtful planning
Setting and sticking to boundaries
The challenges and joy of a blended family
And the need for patience, allowing time for adjustment in the new family dynamics.

00:00 Introductions
02:00The generation of divorce
03:35 What to think about before introducing a new partner
04:50 Letting your co-parent know first
08:10 How to tell your co-parent, you have a new partner
12:50 How to introduce a new partner to your children
14:20 If you take anything away, it’s take baby steps
14:38 Tips on how to help children if it is not managed correctly
18:45 Do different aged children need a different approach?
21:10 How to best introduce the children to each other
23:00 Adapting to new roles and family dynamics
23:42 How to introduce yourself to your partner’s children
26:20 The role of stepparents
28:06 The importance of setting clear boundaries for all
29:05 The use of parenting plans
29:26 How to handle and nurture blended families
31:07 What can you do if your blended family is not working well?
34:14 Nichole’s top tips for introducing a new partner

Additional resources

Supporting children through divorce: https://youtu.be/tMbi1vqkg4E
How to co-parent calmly and the challenges of blended families - https://youtu.be/7OGpehg2cws
Parenting alongside a narcissist https://youtu.be/b10mkX4Y3og
How to get a child arrangements order? https://youtu.be/YRnaUVqn95c
How to vary a child arrangements order? https://youtu.be/ackFKq5ITJU
Do I need my ex’s permission to take the kids on holiday https://youtu.be/Qi-Wg4mqjno

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