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Episode 44 How to prepare to leave a narcissist - Part 1

September 10, 2024 • Stowe talks • Season 5 • Episode 44

In the first of this two-parter episode, Matt and Liza were delighted to be joined again by Dr Supriya McKenna, one of the leading experts in the field of narcissism, to discuss how to prepare to leave a narcissist.

Dr Supriya shares her deep knowledge of narcissism, why it is harder to leave one, including hoovering and gaslighting, finding the right lawyer, and practical tips on the preparations needed to end your relationship. Meanwhile, Matt & Liza share legal insight, the options available to you and the pitfalls to avoid.

00:00 Introductions
02:34 Why is it harder to leave a relationship with a narcissist?
04:44 Why gaslighting will increase post-separation
05:33 Examples of how a narcissist behaviour plays out in divorce
07:50 What is hoovering? And how does the narcissist use this?
13:40 There is a hole in my sidewalk by Portia Nelson
15:08 The prevalence of narcissistic abuse post divorce
19:00 How to prepare to leave a narcissist
19:30 Find the right therapy and therapist
21:10 Don’t tell the narcissist, you know they are a narcissist
24:01 How to find the right lawyer
36:33 The importance of due diligence when selecting your lawyer

You can listen to part 2 of this episode here.

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Divorcing or separating from a narcissist: https://youtu.be/rCCfyHHKCfk
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